A Portion of God's Holy Word Regarding:
Bitterness – Anguish – Criticism – Fault-finding – Resentment – Correction
Teach me, and I will be silent; make me understand how I have gone astray. How forceful are upright words! Job 6:24-25 (ESV)
May my spoken words and unspoken thoughts be pleasing even to you, O Lord my Rock and my Redeemer. Psalms 19:14 (TLB)
Come, my young friends, and listen to me, and I will teach you to honor the Lord. Would you like to enjoy life? Do you want long life and happiness? Then keep from speaking evil and from telling lies. Turn away from evil and do good; strive for peace with all your heart. Psalms 34:11-14 (GNT)
Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. Psalms 51:10 (KJV)
Why do you brag about the evil you've done, you hero? The mercy of God lasts all day long! Your tongue makes up threats. It's like a sharp razor, you master of deceit. You prefer evil to good. You prefer lying to speaking the truth. You love every destructive accusation, you deceitful tongue! But God will ruin you forever. He will grab you and drag you out of your tent. He will pull your roots out of this world of the living. Psalms 52:1-5 (GOD’S WORD®)
He loved to curse; let curses come upon him! He did not delight in blessing; may it be far from him! He clothed himself with cursing as his coat; may it soak into his body like water, like oil into his bones! May it be like a garment that he wraps around him, like a belt that he puts on every day! Psalms 109:17-19 (ESV)
Lord, help me control my tongue; help me be careful about what I say. Take away my desire to do evil or to join others in doing wrong. Don't let me eat tasty food with those who do evil. If a good person punished me, that would be kind. If he corrected me, that would be like perfumed oil on my head. I shouldn't refuse it. But I pray against those who do evil. Psalms 141:3-5 (NCV™)
If you correct someone who makes fun of wisdom, you will be insulted. If you correct an evil person, you will get hurt. Do not correct those who make fun of wisdom, or they will hate you. But correct the wise, and they will love you. Proverbs 9:7-8 (NCV™)
Hatred stirs up trouble, but love forgives all wrongs. Proverbs 10:12 (NCV™)
He who keeps instruction is in the way of life, But he who refuses correction goes astray. Proverbs 10:17 (NKJV)
People without good sense find fault with their neighbors, but those with understanding keep quiet. Proverbs 11:12 (NCV™)
Any who love knowledge want to be told when they are wrong. It is stupid to hate being corrected. Proverbs 12:1 (GNT)
Some people like to make cutting remarks, but the words of the wise soothe and heal. Proverbs 12:18 (TLB)
A wise son listens to his father's discipline, but a mocker does not listen to reprimands. Proverbs 13:1 (GOD’S WORD®)
Your joy is your own; your bitterness is your own. No one can share them with you. Proverbs 14:10 (GNT)
A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1 (WEB)
Kind words bring life, but cruel words crush your spirit. Proverbs 15:4 (GNT)
A fool despises his father's instruction, but a person who heeds correction is sensible. Proverbs 15:5 (HCSB)
Harsh discipline is for him who forsakes the way, And he who hates correction will die… A scoffer does not love one who corrects him, Nor will he go to the wise. Proverbs 15:10, 12 (NKJV)
A word of protest goes deeper into one who has sense than a hundred blows into a foolish man. Proverbs 17:10 (BBE)
Words satisfy the soul as food satisfies the stomach; the right words on a person's lips bring satisfaction. Proverbs 18:20 (NLT)
What you say can mean life or death. Those who speak with care will be rewarded. Proverbs 18:21 (NCV™)
People ruin their lives by their own stupidity, so why does God always get blamed? Proverbs 19:3 (The Message)
Don't ever say, "I'll get you for that!" Wait for God; He'll settle the score. Proverbs 20:22 (The Message)
Those who are careful about what they say keep themselves out of trouble. Proverbs 21:23 (NCV™)
Valid criticism is as treasured by the one who heeds it as jewelry made from finest gold. Proverbs 25:12 (NLT)
Better to correct someone openly than to let him think you don't care for him at all. Friends mean well, even when they hurt you. But when an enemy puts his arm around your shoulder—watch out! Proverbs 27:5-6 (GNT)
He who keeps his sins secret will not do well; but one who is open about them, and gives them up, will get mercy. Proverbs 28:13 (BBE)
Those who correct others will later be liked more than those who give false praise. Proverbs 28:23 (NCV™)
Whoever stubbornly refuses to accept criticism will suddenly be broken beyond repair. Proverbs 29:1 (NLT)
It is better to be criticized by a wise person than to be praised by a fool. Ecclesiastes 7:5 (NCV™)
Don't pay attention to everything people say—you may hear your servant insulting you, and you know yourself that you have insulted other people many times. Ecclesiastes 7:21-22 (GNT)
Woe to the man who fights with his Creator. Does the pot argue with its maker? Does the clay dispute with him who forms it, saying, "Stop, you’re doing it all wrong!" or the pot exclaim, "How clumsy can you be"? Isaiah 45:9 (TLB)
"Give ear to Me, you who have knowledge of righteousness, in whose heart is My Law; have no fear of the evil words of men, and give no thought to their curses." Isaiah 51:7 (BBE)
"Your own wickedness will correct you, And your backslidings will rebuke you. Know therefore and see that it is an evil and bitter thing That you have forsaken the Lord your God, And the fear of Me is not in you," says the Lord God of hosts. Jeremiah 2:19 (NKJV)
Your ways and your doings [rebellion and evil ways] have made these things come on you; this is your sin; truly it is bitter, going deep into your heart. Jeremiah 4:18 (BBE)
I am the one who has seen the afflictions that come from the rod of the LORD's anger. He has brought me into deep darkness, shutting out all light… He has attacked me and surrounded me with anguish and distress… And though I cry and shout, He shuts out my prayers… He has filled me with bitterness. He has given me a cup of deep sorrow to drink… The thought of my suffering and homelessness is bitter beyond words. I will never forget this awful time, as I grieve over my loss. Yet I still dare to hope when I remember this: The unfailing love of the LORD never ends! By His mercies we have been kept from complete destruction. Great is His faithfulness; His mercies begin afresh each day. Lamentations 3:1-2, 5, 8, 15, 19-23 (NLT)
"Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and the measure you give will be the measure you get. Why do you see the speck in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' while the log is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye." Matthew 7:1-5 (RSV)
"Those who grew up 'in the faith' but had no faith will find themselves out in the cold, outsiders to grace and wondering what happened." Matthew 8:12 (The Message)
"Happy are you when people hate you, reject you, insult you, and say that you are evil, all because of the Son of Man! Be glad when that happens and dance for joy, because a great reward is kept for you in Heaven. For their ancestors did the very same things to the prophets." Luke 6:22-23 (GNT)
"Be careful. If your brother sins against you, rebuke him. If he repents, forgive him. If he sins against you seven times in the day, and seven times turns again, saying, 'I repent,' you shall forgive him." Luke 17:3-4 (WEB)
Peter said to [Simon, the magician from Samaria], "May your silver perish with you, because you thought you could obtain God's gift with money! You have no part or share in this, for your heart is not right before God. Repent therefore of this wickedness of yours, and pray to the Lord that, if possible, the intent of your heart may be forgiven you. For I see that you are in the gall of bitterness and the chains of wickedness."
Simon answered, "Pray for me to the Lord, that nothing of what you have said may happen to me." Acts 8:20-24 (NRSV)
You are therefore without excuse, O man, whoever you are who sit in judgment upon others. For when you pass judgment on your fellow man, you condemn yourself; for you who sit in judgment upon others are guilty of the same misdeeds. Romans 2:1 (WNT)
Another reason for right living is that you know how late it is; time is running out. Wake up, for the coming of our salvation is nearer now than when we first believed. The night is almost gone; the day of salvation will soon be here. So don't live in darkness. Get rid of your evil deeds. Shed them like dirty clothes. Clothe yourselves with the armor of right living, as those who live in the light. We should be decent and true in everything we do, so that everyone can approve of our behavior. Don't participate in wild parties and getting drunk, or in adultery and immoral living, or in fighting and jealousy. But let the Lord Jesus Christ take control of you, and don't think of ways to indulge your evil desires. Romans 13:11-14 (NLT)
Welcome those who are weak in faith, but not for the purpose of quarreling over opinions. Romans 14:1 (NRSV)
Therefore, let us no longer criticize one another, but instead decide not to put a stumbling block or pitfall in your brother's way. Romans 14:13 (HCSB)
Those of us who have a strong faith must be patient with the weaknesses of those whose faith is not so strong. We must not think only of ourselves. We should all be concerned about our neighbor and the good things that will build his faith. Christ did not think only of Himself. Rather, as Scripture says, "The insults of those who insult you have fallen on Me." Romans 15:1-3 (GOD’S WORD®)
Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right. 1 Corinthians 13:4-6 (RSV)
We are pressed on every side by troubles, but we are not crushed and broken. We are perplexed, but we don't give up and quit. We are hunted down, but God never abandons us. We get knocked down, but we get up again and keep going. 2 Corinthians 4:8-9 (NLT)
The whole Law is summed up in a single commandment, "You shall love your neighbor as yourself." If, however, you bite and devour one another, take care that you are not consumed by one another. Live by the Spirit, I say, and do not gratify the desires of the flesh. Galatians 5:14-16 (NRSV)
When you are guided by the Holy Spirit you need no longer force yourself to obey Jewish Laws. But when you follow your own wrong inclinations your lives will produce these evil results: impure thoughts, eagerness for lustful pleasure, idolatry, spiritism (that is, encouraging the activity of demons), hatred and fighting, jealousy and anger, constant effort to get the best for yourself, complaints and criticisms, the feeling that everyone else is wrong except those in your little group—and there will be wrong doctrine, envy, murder, drunkenness, wild parties and all that sort of thing. Let me tell you again as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God. Galatians 5:18-21 (TLB)
Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but such as is good for building up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear. Don't grieve the Holy Spirit of God, in whom you were sealed to the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander, be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:29-32 (WEB)
Be therefore imitators of God, as beloved children. Walk in love, even as Christ also loved you, and gave himself up for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling fragrance. Ephesians 5:1-2 (WEB)
Therefore, if you have risen together with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Consider the things that are above, not the things that are upon the earth. For you have died, and so your life is hidden with Christ in God. Colossians 3:1-3 (CPDV)
But now you must get rid of all these things: anger, passion, and hateful feelings. No insults or obscene talk must ever come from your lips. Colossians 3:8 (GNT)
Therefore, clothe yourselves like the elect of God: holy and beloved, with hearts of mercy, kindness, humility, modesty, and patience. Support one another, and, if anyone has a complaint against another, forgive one another. For just as the Lord has forgiven you, so also must you do. Colossians 3:12-13 (CPDV)
Husbands, love your wives, and don't be bitter against them. Colossians 3:19 (WEB)
Likewise, urge the younger men to be self-controlled. Show yourself in all respects a model of good deeds, and in your teaching show integrity, gravity, and sound speech that cannot be censured, so than an opponent may be put to shame, having nothing evil to say of us. Titus 2:6-8 (RSV)
Believers shouldn't curse anyone or be quarrelsome, but they should be gentle and show courtesy to everyone. Indeed, we, too, were once stupid, disobedient, and misled. We were slaves to many kinds of lusts and pleasures. We were mean and jealous. We were hated, and we hated each other. However, when God our Savior made his kindness and love for humanity appear, he saved us, but not because of anything we had done to gain his approval. Instead, because of His mercy He saved us through the washing in which the Holy Spirit gives us new birth and renewal. Titus 3:2-5 (GOD’S WORD®)
Try to live in peace with everyone, and seek to live a clean and holy life, for those who are not holy will not see the Lord. Look after each other so that none of you will miss out on the special favor of God. Watch out that no bitter root of unbelief rises up among you, for whenever it springs up, many are corrupted by its poison. Hebrews 12:14-15 (NLT)
If a person thinks that he is religious but can't control his tongue, he is fooling himself. That person's religion is worthless. James 1:26 (GOD’S WORD®)
We use our tongues to praise our Lord and Father, but then we curse people, whom God made like Himself. Praises and curses come from the same mouth! My brothers and sisters, this should not happen. Do good and bad water flow from the same spring? James 3:9-11 (NCV™)
If you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast and be false to the truth. This is not the wisdom that comes down from above, but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice. But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere. And a harvest of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace. James 3:14-18 (ESV)
Submit therefore to God: resist the Devil, and he will flee from you. Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and make your hearts pure, you who are half-hearted towards God. James 4:7-8 (WNT)
Brothers and sisters, do not tell evil lies about each other. If you speak against your fellow believers or judge them, you are judging and speaking against the Law they follow. And when you are judging the Law, you are no longer a follower of the Law. You have become a judge. God is the only Lawmaker and Judge. He is the only One who can save and destroy. So it is not right for you to judge your neighbor. James 4:11-12 (NCV™)
Do not complain against one another, my friends, so that God will not judge you. The Judge is near, ready to appear. James 5:9 (GNT)
Above all, maintain constant love for one another, for love covers a multitude of sins. Be hospitable to one another without complaining. 1 Peter 4:8-9 (NRSV)
He who says he is in the light and hates his brother, is in the darkness even until now. He who loves his brother remains in the light, and there is no occasion for stumbling in him. But he who hates his brother is in the darkness, and walks in the darkness, and doesn't know where he is going, because the darkness has blinded his eyes. 1 John 2:9-11 (WEB)
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